{"id":2178,"date":"2021-03-12T01:04:11","date_gmt":"2021-03-12T01:04:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sensualtouchco.com\/?p=2178"},"modified":"2021-03-12T01:04:11","modified_gmt":"2021-03-12T01:04:11","slug":"part-two-i-for-intimacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sensualtouchco.com\/?p=2178","title":{"rendered":"Part two I for Intimacy"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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I For Intimacy, Part Two<\/h5><\/div>

OK as promised, here\u2019s more Intimacy, or more I for Intimacy let\u2019s say. In Part 1 here\u2026I for Intimacy<\/a> I talked about how a sensual massage can help someone re-awaken their ability to enjoy sexual intimacy. In this Part Two I want to expand on that and explain how it can improve your sex life. We like the idea of that don\u2019t we? OK let\u2019s talk about improving our sex life.<\/p><\/div>

But first! ….\u2026.gas engineers. I had to re-start my gas boiler recently because it had gone out for some reason probably to do with it being middle of winter and damn cold. I\u2019ll be frank with you; I was quite upset that I managed to re-start it without any help. The prospect of having to call a gas engineer to visit was appealing given how dull things are these days during lockdowns. My over fertile imagination had one of those porn film scenarios playing out once he\u2019d arrived\u2026.\u201dsorry I can\u2019t fire up your boiler but if you need me to get anything else going\u2026.\u201d. OK enough of that gas engineer diversion, sorry.<\/p><\/div>

Getting back to the subject of Intimacy, and since I mentioned the idea of calling in a professional, I have some work for you to do. Please have a think about all the important areas of your life where you’ve been taught or had some training from a teacher, a professional or an expert. Here’s some help to get you started: ‘driving<\/i>‘, think of things like that. Take a minute and note down the first five or six things that come to you….don’t overthink it\u00a0though, be quick.<\/p><\/div>

I\u2019ll get a coffee while you\u2019re doing that\u2026\u2026<\/p><\/div>

OK, are you done? I guess you’ve gone back to your time in school or college perhaps. Maybe you have written down; reading, writing, maths, driving\u00a0<\/i>(I gave you that one…), cooking\u00a0<\/i>(maybe?) and of course in your field of work… whatever that is\u2026are you a gas engineer? I bet you had training for your work didn\u2019t you.<\/p><\/div>

Yes, for many important things in life, there’s some training, or if there’s not any formal training there are easily accessible guides to help you (thanks Youtube!). Usually there’s an expert to ask for help.<\/p><\/div>

But wait\u2026I wonder how many of you had sex\u00a0<\/i>(or sexual intimacy<\/i>) on your list of important things? I bet that not many of you listed that down because there\u2019s not much formal or expert training for sex and sexual intimacy is there? This extremely important aspect of life (indeed it is fundamental to the creation of life) seems to have no training or expert help. We are just left to learn by trial and error.<\/p><\/div>

I\u2019m fairly sure that you didn’t have any formal practical sex training at school, did you? Perhaps like me, you learned the basic mechanics\u00a0<\/i>of sex in school but not much else about it. I’m thinking back to the classroom with the embarrassed biology teacher explaining how animals reproduce, and adding \u201coh and by the way people do it in a similar way\u201d.<\/p><\/div>

There was definitely nothing on sexual intimacy, having sex for fun, or how to give good fellatio\u2026 unless you had an extremely enlightened teacher. Maybe if you’re lucky they talk a bit about relationships and respect in a wider sense, but that’s all. There\u2019s definitely a lacuna in our education around such things as sexual intimacy and relationships, and it needs to be filled.<\/p><\/div>

Maybe you watched porn when you were younger to find out about sex. I think that porn isn\u2019t such a good way of learning about sex. I mean, you didn’t learn to drive a car by watching Formula One did you?<\/p>

I\u2019d argue that porn is not a great tool to use if you want to be better at sex, and sexual intimacy. What you see in the final edit misses out a lot of the \u2018build up\u2019 and the bits that the producer considers aren\u2019t sexy enough to include. Often I think it focuses too much on penetration and a kind of \u2018rush\u2019 to get to the climax. \u00a0<\/p><\/div>

I\u2019ve made some semi amateur porn in the past and the whole experience is not especially sexy. The room is full of cameras and lights, you\u2019re trying to keep your leg or arm out of the way of the close up, you\u2019re thinking about how long you can keep up a position, and then you have to deliver the \u2018money shot\u2019 at the right time. All of this after stopping and starting a few times for various reasons including on one occasion I remember because one of the actors got cramp in his leg.<\/p><\/div>

When it comes to sex (and I’m talking good intimate sex) I\u2019d say that we are mostly left to work it out for ourselves, trial and error style, or learn from unrealistic porn. If you’re not especially assured or if you have a bad experience then \u2018trial and error style\u2019 is not such an effective way to learn. It can damage your confidence, and that may result in withdrawing from any sort of sexual relationship. That\u2019s no good!<\/p><\/div>

You might feel that your sex life with your partner (or with casual partners) is lacking something or has lost the spark it once had. Perhaps it\u2019s all a bit routine, it doesn\u2019t last long and quickly progresses to penetration. Maybe it\u2019s all ok and you just want to take things up a level but you\u2019re not sure how or what to do. Well, here\u2019s what I suggest\u2026..call a gas engineer. No! sorry\u2026.I meant to say call a Sensual Masseur<\/i>.<\/p><\/div>

In Part One of I for Intimacy I defined sexual intimacy as knowing how to ‘press the buttons’ of your partner, and tuning into their feelings. It\u2019s about focusing your attention on them and their pleasure.<\/p>

When you massage someone you become acutely aware of their reaction to your touch. You notice how they breathe, how they move, how they sound, how they smell, how they respond to your prompts.<\/p>

I talked in in my blog previously about how a sensual massage is like a slow seduction, with the aim of both relaxing someone and arousing them, and not necessarily to include having penetrative sex. The aim is simply to enjoy giving and receiving the sensations of a sensual massage.<\/p><\/div>

An experienced sensual masseur can teach you the techniques of giving a sensual massage and how to press those buttons. You\u2019ll learn how to build the erotic tension. You\u2019ll learn where and how to touch them that will make their body quiver with pleasure. You\u2019ll learn how to work with breathing and movement to create an atmosphere filled with erotic tension.<\/p>

Of course receiving a massage does give you the opportunity to become acquainted with some of the techniques by experiencing them but the best way to learn is by giving<\/em> a massage with the guidance of a sensual masseur. It is in giving<\/span> a sensual massage that you find your way to Intimacy.<\/p>

To learn to give a sensual massage is a wonderful way to take your love making to another level. Your partner will certainly appreciate it.<\/p><\/div>

If you want to learn I would suggest trying a sensual massage first (if you haven\u2019t already) and then taking a course in how to massage your partner. There are some longer courses available for those wanting to become a professional sensual masseur, but if you are just looking to learn some techniques and tips to take home and use in your relationship then all you need is a couple of hours training with a good sensual masseur who you feel comfortable with.<\/p><\/div>

Ok here\u2019s the sales pitch\u2026.I offer training sessions for you to learn (with or without your partner) how to give a sensual massage. Talk to me if you\u2019re interested, or see the Training<\/a> page on my website.<\/p>

What I can\u2019t help you with is your heating. I suggest you call an engineer for that.<\/p><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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